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Be There In Five

Be There In Five (1)

No you won’t. And we both know it. It’s not because I don’t trust you. It’s because I do the same thing. I’m running late and am embarrassed that I’m running late so I text you to let you know. I tell you I’m only five minutes away, when really, I’m easily eight minutes out. Why? Because I want to believe I’m not that late.

I hate being late. But I hate being a liar more. So now, I try to be honest or even exaggerate. If I know I’m going to be five minutes late, I say 15 minutes. If I’m going to be 10 minutes late, I say 20. More importantly, I apologize and ask for forgiveness. Their time is just as valuable.

Overstating how late I am  accomplishes two things. 1) I’m honest about running late and I give myself breathing room to get to the appointment. 2) If I’m earlier than I stated, it feels like a win.

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Why I need #SpoBU

Social media has a tendency to drive a wedge between people and, well, other people. It’s why tweetups are a thing. I can be social on social media all day long, but that’s not an adequate replacement for real human interaction. It’s just not.

After attending several #SpoCT’s, and enjoying them, I thought it would be fun to start a tweetup centered around craft beer. So I did. And I called it #Spokane #BeersUp, which was a clunky if not effective name. After a while, it was condensed to simply #SpoBU.

The point is, I need to be social beyond business meetings. #SpoBU gives me an excuse to hang out with a few friends and enjoy a cold one. I need #SpoBu.

Wednesdays 4-6 pm (1)

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Don’t say sorry, apologize… then ask for forgiveness

There’s a difference between saying you’re sorry and asking someone to forgive you.

Years ago, my wife and I did the Growing Kids God’s Way curriculum. In it, the Ezzos talk about having your kids apologize when they get in trouble. Not only that, but the Ezzos recommend having your kids ask for forgiveness. According to the Ezzos, and later confirmed by me in practice, this repairs any damage done by the mistake.

Back when I selling advertising, I had an issue with a client. An agency. In fact, one of the largest agencies in town. I could’ve easily blamed the client, or found some other way to blameshift, but the responsibility was clearly mine. Instead of take the easy way out, I took the Ezzos’ advice and apologized to the client. I then asked for forgiveness. The client began trusting me more, despite my mistake.

Today’s world – with cell phones, social media, instant messaging, etc. – it’s easier than ever to be a flake. Don’t flake. You’re better than that.

Don't just say sorry

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The Time When Nothing Happens

Know what happens at 5am? Nothing. Which is great for my productivity. For the most part, the (West Coast) world is asleep and I can plow through emails, tasks, and especially, projects I’ve avoided finishing.

That’s the key. You have to find the times when you can shut off the distractions and the noise, and focus on getting things done.

Another tip is to make a list of what you want to accomplish during that time. Don’t stop until you’re done, and when you’ve finished, give yourself a reward.

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3 Reasons Why Being Unemployed During the Holidays Has Been a Blessing

Reason #1: I realize how fortunate I still am.
So many people, in this country and across the world, still have less than me. My wife and I were able to pay our bills this month and were still able to get the kids presents for Christmas.

And as cliche and trite as it may sound, we all still have our health. Sometimes, that’s overlooked.

Reason #2: I can put in extra time into the relationships that matter to me.
My faith, my wife and my kids are all important to me and I get to spend extra time with them during the holidays. That’s not awful.

Reason #3: I have time to obtain career perspective.
What do I want to do now? What matters to me when it comes to employment? These are questions I’m spending a lot of time thinking about so that when I move on to the next opportunity, it’ll be the right one.

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You can tell a lot about someone by where they park

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I went to my son’s school early the other morning before school started to help set up for an event. I was pulling in just as the teachers and other staff were arriving for the day and I noticed something interesting. Most of the teachers and staff were parking in spaces right in front of the main doors. However, one person wasn’t. She parked almost as far away from the main doors as she could get. I thought she might be heading for an alternative entrance, but as she got out of her car, she proceeded to walk towards the main entrance.

Growing up, my dad would park at the back end of the parking lot because he didn’t want anyone parking by his truck and scratching his paint job. But that wasn’t the case here because her car isn’t anything special.

Look, I know this isn’t a huge deal but it really tells you a lot about someone. What she’s saying is that she’d rather someone else have a spot by the front doors because she doesn’t mind walking a little further.

Little things like this can reveal a lot about someone.

Looking for Work

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Well, it finally happened. It took longer than I thought – about a week – but I was finally hit with the realization that I’m unemployed, again.

This feeling isn’t new. I was laid-off at the beginning of the recession in 2008. Since then, I’ve had three different jobs for three different employers. Some of those jobs I left voluntarily, some of them I didn’t. The feeling eventually hits you, it’s just a matter of when.

Whether you were fired, laid-off, or you quit, the important thing is to learn from the experience. Take away the good and the bad and become a better person for it. Secondly, approach finding the next job as if it were a job. But don’t just apply for jobs, network too. Sometimes the best job isn’t obtained because you applied for it. You might even have to spend money to make money.

If you’re in the same boat as me, good luck. Oh, and don’t settle. Find more than your next job, find your career.

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Spend money to make money – even if you don’t have a job!

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When you don’t have a job it can be tough to spend money. But any successful business person will tell you, you have to spend money to make money. So, ask a professional contact out to coffee and offer to pay. Buy a beer for someone in your field and ask them questions about how to advance your career. You could even ask them if they’d be willing to introduce you to a colleague of theirs.

The toughest decisions are made when money is tight. Ask Kellogg. They chose to spend money during the Great Depression and ending up besting C.W. Post during and after that time.

I’m not at all suggesting you should be reckless with your money, but if you are smart and faithful, you’ll be successful in the end.

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Thoughts on Maturity

Maturity is really just learning to make decisions more slowly. I’m about to turn 31 and honestly, other than the simple fact I have more knowledge, I really don’t feel any different than I did 10 years ago. I just take longer to calculate a decision or formulate a reaction.

Ask a 50 year old if they feel 50? Maybe their body feels old, but their mind probably doesn’t.

Knowledge might be the key here considering I know more know then I did 10 years ago. But I can’t say that I have better ideas now as opposed to back then. It’s just that I take longer to form the idea.

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Common Sense Isn’t So Common

And I’m not a genius for discovering this, but it’s true. You hear the phrase “common sense” as if it’s something you should find in people more often than not. I’m here to tell you, the opposite might be more true.

This website exists for a reason. Maybe it should be called Common Fail instead.

Anyway, I don’t want to just rant but seriously, let’s find some common sense.